Soapbox

It’s sad when communication breaks down to the point that there is no constructive talking going on any more.  When you don’t realise people are talking to you to come to a peaceful resolution everyone can work with, and react by sniping, everyone loses.  

I’ve always been a proponent of “be who you are; not who someone wants you to be”.   Realising that not only can you NOT force people to change dramatically, but that, in the end, they will eventually revert back to “who they are”, is life-changing.    People have a right to be who they are.   You can’t *make* them change.. they have to choose the change that makes sense, if any.

When people lure you away from what you know you should be doing with jealousy and anger, your compliant reaction only benefits them, validates their reaction, and takes quite a bit away from you.  

I know this is all convoluted, but if I’ve learned anything in the last two years, it’s that you have to look inside yourself and always do the thing you feel  is right, especially when it’s for the benefit of yourself and the benefit of others.

And it doesn’t cause you to snipe at people like a mad bastard.

(and just in case you’re wondering, this has nothing at all to do with Ian)