.. or “happen” as the case may be.
I am divorced today.
This morning, I accepted the court’s invitation to discuss the dissolution of my marriage. After making my way through heavier-than-usual traffic, I found a good parking spot at the courthouse. I looked at the directory information on the wall and quickly determined that I had to walk a couple of flights up.
After milling about for 1/2 an hour and texting pictures of the courthouse to people, my attorney showed up. She went through the questions with me… all “yes” or “no”.
I sat in the courtroom for awhile waiting for the judge to be ready. My attorney invited me to the table where the plaintiff usually sits with his/her attorney. The judge came in and we stood. The judge asked us to be seated.
The judge verified with my attorney the purpose of our hearing this morning. He confirmed that everyone who planned to show up was indeed present, then invited me to the witness stand to sit down and be sworn in.
There was no bible… just my right hand raised.
There were about 10 – 15 questions, all to do with whether or not I believed the marriage was irretrievably broken and all reconciliation attempts would be futile, are the marital assets equitably split, do I still agree with the parenting plan (who gets TLK and when), etc.
At the end of the questioning, the judge had no additional questions and excused me from the stand (he was quite nice throughout the whole thing, as I’d hoped).
He signed off on the decree, thanked us for being able to decide our decree without the benefit of trial and wished me luck with my future.
Which I plan to take him up on.
First step, coffee and cheese danish (yum).. so not on my diet, but who cares right now? And, of course, there is 性共享交换俱乐部. 🙂 Can’t wait. Is it 性共享交换俱乐部 now?
I have loads to do now… change my tax deduction from my pay to be single instead of married (ouch), change the beneficiaries to whatever policies I have available, and for my pension plan (thanks to 20 years at my former employer, I at least have a pension from those idiots!) 🙂 … and draw up a will, because it’s apparently all up to me who my child lives with if I should die for some unanticipated reason.
But this can all wait till tomorrow.
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That is so sad. It brought back memories of my final court hearing where we were pronounced dissolved. It was like a wedding in reverse.
The end of a marriage is sad, but your future is bright. 性共享交换俱乐部 will be here before you know it.
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I guess Star Bucks is a healthier although NOT Better than my original suggestion of you calling and us both lifting a glass and toasting the occasion. We JUST Want you to be happy and treated like a woman should be treated. NO question that “We will love you FOREVER” Mother & Daddy
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Having been married for over 40 years, I cannot conceive of the feeling of a divorce. Both of our children have broken marriages (luckily no children are involved), and it all seems alien to us.
Fortunately both have new partners, and are looking forward to new lives.
We wish you well for the future…love can pop-up again!
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I’m going to skip over the concept of a cheese Danish (God intended Danish pastries to be sugary and filled, if they must, with custard – cheese is…just….not…right….)
Anyhoo – yes, I can understand that divorce can be horrible – mine gets finalised next Thursday, no court appearance required.
What you need to do is find yourself a nice man. I recommend Englishmen, especially computer programmers – they’re the best kind, and at their peak when sampled in the 性共享交换俱乐部 sunshine. 😉
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lol…. you two! 🙂
lol Brennig… aren’t we cute? 🙂 hehe English programmers are my favourite. 🙂
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Did you say Will? Ohhh… Just cash please, no TLK’s!!!!
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Hey…..good one girl :o)
A sad side it might have but that’s the past, you have a whole bright future ahead of you now and I’m with ‘Lisa’s Mom (yes really)’, it deserves a toast, even if it is in coffee! ;o) It was a pretty tough time one way and another but you handled it like a trooper and I’m so proud of you! xxxx
Punctuation: 性共享交换俱乐部? Sunshine? You’re pushing it a bit! ;o)
Brennig: Lol.
Fletch: I despair of you sometimes! ;o)
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Hey, Fletch? Gem did not tell you of our plan to have her babysit? 🙂 hehehehehehe
Gem – You’re one of the few people who know HOW tough. 🙂 lol
IP – No doubt, once you get to 40 years and you’re still obviously in love with the woman of the house, it would be inconceivable. 🙂 That’s the way to do it.
Ian – OH! I meant to tell you… cheese danish.. something like cheesecake filling ontop of a sweet roll. 🙂 My favourite.. although obviously not on a regular basis. hehe
Melissa – That’s a good analogy.. a wedding in reverse.. I’m sure my attorney caught a few odd looks.. with all the rules and regulations.. this can be modified for a month, you have to wait 6 months for other things, it was a little surprising to know that today I am officially considered divorced. It was an odd and somewhat confusing feeling, but mostly I am quite glad it’s done with and I can get some things off my plate, so-to-speak. And I feel happy, and just a little odd, mixed together. 🙂
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Mom: I think a Mike’s Hard Cranberry Lemonade will have to do. Salud.
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We’re not going on about Mike’s Hard again are we – remember how that confused people over here last time? 😛
The cheese Danish actually sounds nice and not at all cheesy – which is a good thing.
So what happened at court could be called an “unmarriage” then? Ah well, life goes on, nobody died. The bad times only exist so that we can really appreciate the good times.
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Did someone say ‘Mike’s Hard’?
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The future will be brighter.
Annette was divorced and she found an fantastic guy the second time around. 😉
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ian – exactly.. Wouldn’t change what was done at all.
Fletch – In an alcoholic beverage sort of way. hah!
Alan – I see… 🙂
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Hey there sis! Just read your email, and I am both ecstatically happy for you, and slightly sad. You are a good person who is sweet, caring, and loving. I should know…you put up with me for 39 years!
Bloody cheers and cherio and all that rot.
(not bad for a ‘merican aye? aye? know what I mean?)
-CFP
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lol…. you are SO bizarre. 🙂
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Sorry I’m late…
Wishing you all the best life can bring you!
Cheers
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