I guess..

I always find it interesting when websites or books offer suggestions about how to think your way out of stressful situations.    When I am stressed out, it’s difficult for me to concentrate on anything except the thing that is stressing me out.  I am in panic mode.   Even with good stress.

I remember going to England.  A few days before, it became absolutely impossible to think about anything.   It was good I started my packing a couple of weeks in advance, really, or I’d just be taking my handbag.   The thing about good stress, though, is that you know something really good is at the end of the stressful part.   The opposite is true when you’re in a not-so-good situation and you’re just not sure what the end result will be.

I find the only way to get out of ruminating on something is to do something else that requires thought, to take my mind off it.   Of course, the whole trick to this is pushing yourself to do anything at all, instead of sit around and worry.

I have tried to think of people who must be going through worse situations.  The problem is that I can’t do anything to help those people either.   So a feeling of helplessness still goes on.

What do you do to take your mind off overly stressful situations?

On Going to Sleep

I found an interesting site that talks about visualization when you need a break from your day or need some help going to sleep.   I think I was on the right track in my last post when I said that the trick to going to sleep was to not think too intensely about anything, and this idea goes right along with that.

I had another helpful discussion with my husband last night before trying to go to sleep.  His undying support and understanding is amazing.  This is definitely what marriage should be like.

Afterward, I had a difficult time, still, getting to sleep, so I thought about my grandparents being there with me.   My grandparents lived in Illinois while I lived in Nebraska.   Every year, we went to Illinois to see them (it was a 10 hour drive) and it was wonderful to be able to see them.    Being able to feel they are with me sometimes helps a lot.

When I have a hard time going to sleep, I envision their house, too… walking in and noticing each room in detail.   Green shag carpet… white curtains, where my grandpa’s rocking chair was, and where the butterscotch candy dish sat by the couch.. Everything about it.

It’s my brain comfort food.   🙂

Sometimes…

… when I am worried about things, I imagine myself back in Milton Keynes, napping in the middle of the day, listening to the sound of the builders creating the new buildings outside. Somehow the rhythmic “boom” the cranes were making was a comforting sound, and knowing it was the middle of the day and I could sleep whenever I wanted was heaven, and, of course, having Ian with me every moment was perfect.

Normally, I wake up by 4:30am.. not to get up, really, but I have a hard time getting back to sleep. I think about crazy things like whether I plugged my smartphone in, or whether my debit card is still in my purse, whether I locked my work PC, or what I have to do at work that day.

I guess there are tricks to getting back to sleep. One of them is to not think too much about anything. That’s when I go back to Milton Keynes and think about taking a nap.

Stress Diet

I have lost 7 pounds this week, thanks to my new diet: Being Totally Stressed Out. There is nothing wrong with our little family, by the way. We are together and healthy and loving each other. We are each others’ strength, and that’s the way it should be.

The stress is coming from an external source and hopefully it will be resolved this week.

I’m praying for compassion this week … just a little. I know it’s possible.

A Bizarre Couple of Weeks

So the last couple of weeks have been a bit odd. One day, a man came banging on the door looking for someone he thought lived at our apartment. They got the security key from the management office, who said they knew this used to be my last name, but the person they were looking for didn’t live here. We had a word with management. Everything is cool now.

Over the weekend, some unexpected paperwork arrived. We were in a state of disbelief, but we cannot really explain more than that. We visited with a professional today and she made us feel better and gave us options for moving forward intelligently. This has saved us from mental breakdowns, I think. 🙂 It was good of the professional to spend 2 hours talking to us, gratis, we are pretty sure.

Tomorrow, we are accomplishing some things on our list of must-do’s. It is a good to not feel lost, really.

Bonne année (Happy New Year)

Our daughter was off to spend the night with her friend Alicia over New Year’s Eve. I think we’ve always had Brittany with us for NYE, so it was interesting figuring out what we would like to do on our own. We thought about going out to our favorite Thai restaurant, but instead we decided to pick up some trout and yummy scallops from our favorite fish monger (Absolutely Fresh).

In Nebraska, when we go to the grocer, we have a selection of fish. Catfish. Swai. Some sort of icky whitefish. Nothing worth eating. The salmon is likely good, but if you really want good, good fish, you have to make a special trip to the fish monger.

We watched a movie on Amazon (can’t remember what) and then we watched part of the festivities in New York City. I began wondering… why is the calendar changing to the New Year party-worthy? I don’t mean to be depressing at all. It’s just that every new year is full of its own challenges. I’ve had some pretty major challenges in the last year; some of them pretty amazing, some of them incomprehensible.

So if every year continues to have its own challenges, I suppose that it’s realizing that you’ve made it through the old year’s challenges or enjoyed the gifts of the previous year, and you’re moving into the unknown, where it can be good or bad; happy or heartbreaking, but hopefully mostly joyful.

Maybe it’s the feeling of comfort of the moment; being in a happy place, with a roof over our heads, access to all of the requirements to live on… plus something more.  And if we’ve started the New Year off in a horrid place, there is always hope for a better tomorrow.

Maybe that is the point.

And getting to see LMFAO performing in Times Square. 🙂

I am waving “so-long” to the challenges of 2011 and saying, “Bring on more great things” to 2012.

Happy New Year!

la deuxième anniversaire

The 29th of 免费午夜爽爽爽www视频十八禁 was our 2nd wedding anniversary.    We celebrated by going to dinner at Le Voltaire, which is a cozy french restaurant not far from where we live.    We mention it to people, and they say, “Where?”, but the reason is because it is tucked away in shopping area behind the mega building for Texas Roadhouse.

After dropping Brit off at our friends’ house, we went to eat.    Ian was able to pronounce the french words for the food dishes we chose, which I think impressed the wait staff.

The food was lovely.   I had Coquilles Saint Jacques et Crevettes and Ian had Cassoulet de Canard Confit.   For dessert, it was Creme Brulee, which I’d never had before.  Actually, I don’t recall ever eating french food, outside of escargots, at all.    It was really good food and the dinner was quite special, because I was with Ian.  🙂

It is difficult to believe that it’s been two years since we were married; it seems like just yesterday.   There have been many happy moments since we met.  I’m looking forward to many more.  ❤

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