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Something to chew on

From this book.

WANTS AND NEEDS

Legitimate Needs

Intellectual Needs. Your mind needs information, stimulation, and the challenge of problems to solve. You have an innate need to comprehend and understand the people and events around you. You need variety, recreation and play time. You have a drive to accomplish things. You need to grow and to change. You need the freedom to honestly express your thoughts and you need authentic, consistent responses from others.

Emotional Needs. Less obvious, but hardly less essential, are your emotional needs — to love and be loved, to have companionship, to feel that you are respected, and to respect others. You need sympathy and compassion from others, and you need to express your own sympathy and compassion for them.

Needs v. Wants

.. If you have low self-esteem, it’s hard enough for you to pursue survival needs. But your less vital needs and wants seem unimportant, particularly if they conflict with someone else’s. Moreover, you tend to identify essential needs as mere wants and neglect to satisfy them. You think that you’re being a stoic and forgoing comfort for the sake of others; but actually you’re an unwitting martyr to your low self-esteem. You’re not merely uncomfortable, you’re surrendering important emotional, social, intellectual or spiritual needs for the fear of hurting or offending someone.

(there’s more.. if these things sound legitimate to you, you may want to buy or check out the book)

Lightning

I wonder if anyone else in the world feels this way. When I get done reading a book, I miss the characters. I want them to go on, even when I know the story is over. But what would they go on TO, now that the interesting part is over?

I just finished Dean Koontz’s, “Lightning“. It’s an interesting story, and takes an odd twist right in the middle. It’s almost like two stories in one, combining a girl’s difficult life, which only makes her strong and determined, time travel, Nazi Germany and lots of action. If you read it, you’ll never think of Uzi’s and Vexxon Gas the same. 🙂

So it’s on to the next book, which I started a month ago, Sandra Brown’s “White Hot“. Sandra Brown writes a good story with the same sort of characters each time; a man we love to hate, at first, then fall in love with, and a woman who’s strong and really not looking for a man we’d love to hate.

My favorite Sandra Brown so far is “Envy“. Pick it up. You won’t be sorry.

A Book Done; a Book Beginning

So after “Us” ended this Thursday, I immediate put in my next audio book, which is, “Are You Afraid of the Dark?”, by Sidney Sheldon. As always, the first few paragraphs lead me to believe I wouldn’t like this book, but it’s becoming quite interesting.

It’s a book about several Think Tank members who are being murdered. Not only do you hear the slight details about the murders, but the reader is spun into the character’s lives by describing how those grieving depended on the people who died, and why. Some of it was hard to hear, and shocking.

Looks like another good read, or “listen”, as the case may be.

Almost at the end

I have almost reached the end of “Us“, just having started listening to CD 9 0f 9. I’ll be sad to see it go, the book I thought I wouldn’t like.

I’ll miss the sound of the British voices and the talk about Oxford and all of the deciphering of the British words into their American counterparts. Eventually, I may begin speaking with a British access, just because I love the sound of it.

Were I to move to London, I imagine I would have to be jobless, perhaps in my pensioner days, where I could sit in a park or hang around a circus in order to only listen to the sound of the accent that would eventually become an everyday sound.

I also found a site where you could rent unlimited audiobooks for $11.95 a month. I would only get through one or two, depending on the length of the book, so it’s hardly worth it to me. But you… you might benefit from it.

Books on CD

To entertain myself on the way to work, I’ve started listening to spoken books on CD. These are easily obtained for free from the libraray.

This week, I am reading, “Us” by Richard Mason. What I enjoy about this book is that it involves 3 characters: Julian, Jake and Adrienne, and the book begins by dedicating each chapter to a specific character. Once the characters meet, the names of the chapters involve 2 – 3 people.

All three of these people have landed in different circumstances in life. Julian is a teacher, whose father believes he is a waste of space. Jake is a famous artist turned alcoholic. Adrienne is married to an older man and pregnant, fullfilling her mother’s expectations of social status and wealth.

Julian began as a middle class English boy who ends up in Oxford after 5 years of boarding school. His practice is to keep his head low and avoid trouble. Essentially, he plays along with the crowd, right or wrong, in order to not draw attention to himself. In his second year, he meets an American girl, Andreinne and falls in love with her.

Adrienne comes from a wealthy family in the US. Adrienne’s mother is overbearing and the antithesis of what a mother should be. As Adrienne leaves for college, she shouts after her that when she became pregnant with Adrienne, she came “that close” to having an abortion. Can you imagine? Adrienne chooses Oxford in order to get away from her mother.

Jake is a lower class English boy who lands in boarding school via a monetary gift. The boys catch on that he is from a poor family, and ride him hopelessly. He falls in love with Julian’s sister. I have not gotten to the part where he goes to Oxford, but I’m betting he is landing there soon.

I always start a new book by thinking, “This book is going to stink”, but I become quickly attached to it, and can’t wait to get into my car and drive awhile so I can hear what happens next.

Who Moved My Cheese

I started reading a book called, “Who Moved My Cheese“, by Spencer Johnson. It’s a book about change and willingness to adapt.

If you’ve ever had a life-changing experience, you should grab a copy, even if you check it out at the library, and it’s a quick read. There is a lot to learn about it, like how to get over fear of change and start living again.

I won’t give out any spoilers on this, but if you have difficulty dealing with the unexpected realities of life, this is a must read.

Roses are Red

I am reading, “Roses are Red”, by James Patterson. This book is part of a crime series, where the main character, Alex Cross, is a liaison between the local police and the FBI. He works on major crimes, like bank robberies, kidnappings and murders.

James Patterson has a knack for keeping a reader reading. Not only is there a crime centrification, but there is also the personal life of Alex Cross, where his love interests keep falling apart in dramatic ways. For example, his wife is murdered in a drive-by shooting, which oddly enough, was a crime never solved.

In addition, there is Christine, a principal at a local school, who was kidnapped for a year and, during that time, had Alex’s baby.

In this particular book, Alex’s daughter, Jannie, has suddenly started having grand mal seizures. The neurologist is trying to find out why.

This is my first James Patterson read, and I’m interested to see how it ends. From the looks of it, the characters keep reappearing in subsequent novels. I suppose, not only an interesting writing expedition for the author and reader, but also not a bad marketing strategy.

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